The entire Universe has its existence rooted in the principle of the opposites. The Shiva sakthi concept, the yin-yang concept of the Chinese, spirit and matter are all part of the same vision.
The opposite though they seemingly exist independently, the reality is that they cannot exist without the other, the other being always the opposite. Therefore the opposites are always complementary, or rather they are not really opposites. They are like the two sides, that make a coin. Opposites seemingly exist only to make existence possible and to enhance each other.
Man and woman are the most ideal pair of opposites blessed with endless endowments physical mental intellectual and spiritual to help them merge into each other and experience the ultimate goal of life ie, bliss, pure existence consciousness. But how many are able to realise or even at least know that there exists, such a possibility?
To begin with man and woman are incomplete and a little irregular and therefore unstable as the figure shows. This instability is only as far as the earthly life goes and is exactly the potential life holds. Man tends to be reasoning or head oriented and woman emotional or heart oriented as a general rule.
However when they come together with the spirit of right mental attitude i.e, a willingness to appreciate the opposite values in sacrifice, love energy emanates from each other and they make an ideal couple and the shape squares up and attains stability. Such a couple will be a boon to the entire society spreading positive energy everywhere.
When they live life complementing each other, i.e the woman depending and drawing from the power of reasoning and stability of the man and the man acquiring the emotional qualities of love and tenderness and care, they perfectly bond and become one, merging into each other, going beyond duality. Conflict ends and peace dawns.
Evolving further they enter into more blissful coexistence. Though physical separation becomes an increasing reality, that no more troubles them and they are any moment ready for the final departure. Very often they depart from this world one after the other.
Synergism is where the combined strength is much greater than the sum total of the strength of the individual ingredients. It works something like 1+1=11 i.e. two together performs better.
Synergism is a great boon to humanity and often helps value addition in all his endeavours. One clear example of synergism is concrete. The strength of the concrete is much more than the total strength of the ingredients used.
Similarly man and woman are endowed with several individual faculties in the form of sense organs and motor organs (action organs).
When man and woman are able to combine these faculties, synergistically to good effect, the result is perfect bonding. This bonding is always the result of a chemical transformation which is termed as conjugal chemistry. Please give your deep attention to an analogy between concrete and conjugal relationship using the various factors involved.
There can be only one perfect match on either side. So let your reasoning go wild. Think, imagine, discuss, move with awareness into the subtle act of love making and come to conclusion. Here you are studying yourself. You are the laboratory, you are the scientist, and you are the subject and object.
If the concrete is not strong it is evident that some ingredients are short or not of right quality. Similarly in life if there are problems it should be concluded, that some faculties are idle. They should be identified and corrective approaches made.
The hand matches perfectly with sand. In fact the hands and tongue both go hand in hand and the possibilities are enormous. They could spread across the whole physiology. I Don't think it needs further explanation. It is all left to your creative imagination, skill and deft manipulation.
Man and Women should walk hand in hand, lend a hand to each other, touch caress and fondle each other. The hands and sand are very subtle and versatile. The sand spreads across the whole of concrete and help in creating a perfect bond. Similarly the hands and tongue can combine to undertake a stimulating voyage over the physiology to kindle fire and chemical transformation and bonding and what not? Real marriage is what happens as a result of this bonding. Today marriage is a rule and very rarely does the bonding take place later. This is partly because of the ignorance and the over dependence on marriage as a contract which has nothing to do with reality apart from being a ritual. Even without marriage couples can lead a fulfilling and trustworthy life provided they bond well.
In the preparation of concrete mixing plays a vital role. Even as the ingredients are added one by one sequentially, mixing starts. Finally water is added and the mixture is left to set. Similarly in the case of couples communication has to be there on and off. Without communication couples cannot mingle with each other and enjoy sex as a holistic experience. Sex has to be more of a psychological episode than physiological. Today sex is more of a physical encounter that gives only sensual pleasure. Communication is an ongoing process and has to be encouraged always. As mixing is important in concrete communication is important in life. Ideal communication is more about listening than talking. So communication can be kept alive either by talking or proactive listening. Mixing plays a major role in the synthesis of concrete. It also adds to the dynamic and synergistic values of concrete. Similarly communication plays a vital role in the synthesis of a holistic personality.
In the human physiology legs are large and powerful and helps only bring stability and helps move about and position oneselves (of course we can play football too!). The versatility is limited. Similarly stones in concrete act as buffering agent and brings strength and stability to the concrete. There is not much of dynamism associated with these two constituents though they appear as the base on which the structure is built.
What has sex to do with water? Sex is all fire and water is also born out of fire. In concrete the ingredients are added in a definite proportion and in a sequential manner. It is the versatility of the ingredients, the right proportion, the sequence in which they are added, coupled with the mixing that helps it to blend and solidify into such a strong compound. Similarly in love making the various events have to follow in the right sequence and in the right proportion. In concrete there is a particular time to add the water. Similarly in love making the act of intercourse has to be properly timed. Otherwise it becomes a bad experience for the partner. In as much as water is not present in set concrete sex should not be carried through the day. One should not live for sex but sex should complement life.
It may be a little intriguing how head can do business with steel. Usages like steely nerves, ironman, ironlady etc are common. This means nothing but a sound reasoning that always prevail upon emotions. Emotions are an essential part of our daily life and very often we get carried away. The problem starts there. Where head (sound reasoning) rules, integration results. Where emotion rules, disintegration results. Women are basically emotional in nature and therefore it is that rarely do they make great leaders. At home problems will keep popping up regularly and always sound reasoning has to prevail for the steadfastness of human relationship. In concrete it is the steel that can remain independent, strong and offer stability and take both compressive and tensile load. Similarly for life to be steady and smooth sound reasoning should always take the upperhand. In reference here is true sound reasoning based on reality and not unfounded ego based reasoning. In today's world even among men this quality is rare. The reason is perhaps they have all become slaves to belief systems and lost the art of free thinking.
Heart is the emotional centre and is all about chemistry. It is the emotions that are the essence of life. Without emotions life would be dry. In fact life would not be life at all. Heart the centre of emotions is the balancing or binding factor of thoughts and actions. Heart (Emotions) can transform itself and others. It is this transformative and binding force that sets up life in all its glory and glow.
Regarding concrete cement is the only ingredient that undergoes chemical transformations and thereby binds the whole compound. The various ingredients in the right proportion in combination with cement create strength synergistically.
In life emotions guided by sound reasoning is the key to right actions, fulfillment and happiness. On the other hand misguided emotions can create havoc.
There is not much to write home about these features. Both are present as observer, though not visible. Both are very important from the point of view of the transformation that takes place in their presence. In human relationship this awareness is what can continuously guide you in the proper direction. The idea behind this simile is proper analysis of conjugal relationship vis-a-vis sex. This is very important especially in our times.
We all know how strong concrete is and that the strength is all about combining the right thing in the right proportion in the right place at the right time. The synergistic effect that it creates is unbelievable.
Now let us move to conjugal relationship. There is no doubt that each of the seven faculties are important and distinct in their own way. Each have a well defined role too. Now fruitful relationship is all about knowing and combining these faculties in the right place in the right proportion at the right time.
Awareness means detached observation. One should know what one is doing. Meditation will help improve the awareness. Detached observation will help see things in proper light. Awareness also enables you to have a second look at things and correct if necessary.
If something goes wrong with a relationship, by cross checking you can find whether some faculties remained silent or out of proportion or out of order and proper remedial measures can be taken.